Monday, February 8, 2010

True love...

Being the romantic I proudly label myself to be, I must confess that Valentines Day is not a favorite of mine. You may ask how can this be??? Well a tale of 1998 explains it all.

Valentines evening & I was dutifully at my post as Blockbuster manager. A couple came in already in an argument: it seems he got her nothing & she was beyond upset. Movie chosen & at checkout she engaged me...blah, blah I right??? Well..I asked her...
"Is he horrible to you???"
"No" came out & boy was she confused.
"Does he cheat? Beat you? Treat you without respect??? "
"No, no, no he's great."
"Then what do you need a card for on one day, when he reminds you all the time????"
Her face softened, he told me I was his new favorite person & together they went off to watch their movie with popcorn.
Valentines Day was created by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD to express love in a time of no Red Envelope, Hallmark, EHarmony, FTD: you name all the nonsense we obsess over, it simply did not exist. I've seen single girlfriends depressed on the 14th that they have no date, no flowers, no nick nacks instead of focusing on the love of friends & family. I've witnessed men running around like a chicken with their heads cut off in a drugstore on the 14th buying teddy bears & the card no one else wanted because they forgot & dread going home empty handed. A coworker once went to tears when he husband sent a great plant basket for her desk & not a dozen red roses, which for me is passe. All this drama. All for what????Expressing love, true love has nothing to do with all the disposable melamine, fluffy animals , sugar concocted offerings the retail world is trying to force down your psyche as a requirement not a testament. True love is giving of yourself to create a feeling of safety, contentment & peace in another for always not merely the 14th day of February. There's not a solitary material item that can express this: its a lifetime journey of humanity. This is true romance, true love.
Wishing you true love everyday.

Images courtesy of the genius Michelle Rago


A Gift Wrapped Life said...

I agree with you 100% and most would be surprised by that and you said it in a most wonderful way. XO

Averill said...

You're so right Alicia, but I suppose V-day is an excuse for a lot of folks to obsess about what they do not have more than anything else...I for one put far more importance on the holiday as a single gal than I have since I've been married.

Lori said...

Amen to this sista! We tend not to make a big deal out of valentines day and I laugh as the parade of roses comes into the office and the girls all ooh and aah over them. Roses die ~ give me diamonds! Seriously though ~ just being together and spending some quiet time is the best. Nice to see you btw!

Amara e Rozani Pereira said...

Hi, all good?
I am delighted with your blog!
He is wonderful!
What good taste and whim!
Congratulations! I will add in my blog.
I'm from Brazil, Rio de Janeiro.

red ticking said...

terrific post... everyday is truly a gift. i feel the most unexpected gift is the most treasured.

the girl who came gift wrapped said...

Just discovered your blog, and sooooo glad i did, sooo pretty! such an inspiration!

<3 Lily,

ashlina said...

your blog is so beautiful!

Punctuation Mark said...

lovely... just got back from DC and the cherries were starting to bloom...

Mademoiselle Frou-Frou said...

i simply wanted to share what a beautiful post this is...much like every post you do!
xox alison